Sunday, September 6, 2009

Ask Questions!



Not sure what to ask?

That could be a sign of a problem. Why? Most women have preferences when it comes to their birth experience - or they would if they knew some of their options ahead of time. The most important information needs to be obtained long before baby's birth day: when mom is choosing where to have her baby, and with whom.

To find out more about your choices, do some reading, talk to an independent childbirth educator (one not affiliated with a hospital), talk to local women about their birth experiences, listening for a birth story that is like the one you want, watch some birth films (not necessarily birth tv).

Then ask questions - respectfully, clearly, firmly. Specific questions that are not simply answered with a yes or a no. Ask follow-up why & how questions - how many ...? how come...? why not...? If questions seem to make your care provider angry or defensive, take these signs seriously. If your appointments don't last long enough for your care provider to answer your questions, or he/she doesn't take the time to answer thoroughly, take this seriously too.

Asking questions is not rude, nor does it imply that you do not trust your care provider. A respectful care provider who takes you and your birth seriously will encourage you to ask questions and will be happy to answer them. Getting answers helps you evaluate your options, to be sure that the standard care provided by your doctor/midwife/birthplace is the type of care you prefer to receive. Asking questions and getting answers is one sign of a responsible parent, a responsibility that most of us take seriously from the first positive pregnancy test.

Christina @ Birthing Your Baby
Independent Childbirth Classes for Central Maine
Mamas & Muffins: New Moms Group

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2 Comments:

Blogger Joy said...

Very helpful!

September 6, 2009 at 11:50 AM  
Blogger Morgan said...

I remember feeling like I was taking up to much of my OB's time by asking a lot of questions. There in and out of appointments so fast, that it makes it hard to get everything discussed. You make a good point for why we need to ask anyway, though.

September 7, 2009 at 9:48 AM  

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